Lunch / Recess Problems
During these less-structured times, students can find themselves dealing with some problems. Here are a few problems and solutions to help you out.
The Shoved One Dear Kid Helper,
I am not a big complainer, but there is something on my mind that I need some help with… At lunch, someone in my grade is always shoving me out of the way just as I am about to sit in a seat next to a friend. I feel that he/she is doing this on purpose to keep me from enjoying my lunch. It’s been going on for a long, long time, and I really want it to get better. What can I do? Sincerely, The Shoved One |
SolutionDear Shoved One,
Thank you for sending us your problem. We are sorry to hear that you are being shoved at lunch and not enjoying time with your friends. We can see that you are feeling hurt, in pain, sad, melancholy, unhappy, and frustrated. Here are some strategies to help you: · Calmly speak up for yourself: Tell the bully that this is bothering you (and have friends stand with you) · You might make a plan and look for another place to sit · You could ask your friends to sit at another table with you · Tell a trusted adult. For example: parents, teachers, counselors, office staff, babysitters, principal, etc. We hope that this helps to solve your problem. Your friend, Kid Helpers |
The Bystander Dear Kid Helper,
At my school there is a new toy out at recess. As you can imagine, this is leading to some fighting over who gets to use it. I have not been involved in the fighting but I can see it happening and getting worse all of the time. I want to tell the teacher but I do not want to get the kids (some of them are my friends) in trouble. But it’s really getting out of hand – kids are getting physical! I feel that something needs to be done. What do you suggest, Kid Helper? Sincerely, The Bystander |
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Mr. Game Troubles Dear Kid Helper,
There is a problem at recess. Some kids are excluding me and others in a game that we want to play. The kids who are excluding people always get their way with the game. For example, if someone wants to quit they won’t let you. Or, if I try to join the game then they quit! Thanks for your help, Mr. Game Troubles |
SolutionDear Mr. Game Troubles,
We would love to help! We are sorry to hear that you are confused because some people are letting you play and others aren't. We can see that you are feeling frustrated, angry, and mad. Here are some strategies to help you: Stick up for yourself at all times tell them how you're feeling Ask if you should play or if you shouldn't Do something you like to calm yourself down We hope that our ideas help! Sincerely, Kid Helper |